Mean girls…

As it’s National ‘Mean girls’ day today…I thought this would be a perfect time to share my experience.

In my teens and *just* into my twenties I had been part of a big group of girl friends. We went on holidays together, laughed together and cried together. I loved having lots of friends, there was always someone there to talk to or give advice, always someone to meet up with if you were bored and I thought we’d always be friends. How wrong was I? 

Looking back on it now, it wasn’t as great as it seemed at the time. There was always bitchiness and jealousy among some of the group and girls would take sides with one and isolate the other etc. I always tried to stay neutral in those situations, I like everyone and anyone. I treat everyone with the same respect (sometimes more) than they give me, I was a lot softer by nature then, but now, if you cross me – You’ll know about it. 

That’s exactly what one of my *best* friends did. I was on holiday with another friend of mine and this so called best friend of mine slept with my *then* boyfriend! 

A friend out of our group told me what she’d done when we got back. I confronted her and she swore blindly that she hadn’t. I confronted him and he said the same. Naively, I believed them – either I was too young and dumb to see through them or they both deserve an Oscar. If she had come clean to me at the time and admitted it – it would’ve been him that I showed the door too, but she didn’t, she stayed quiet. She let me move in with this guy when she knew what they had done. 

He became more and more controlling and she became more and more distant (probably out of fear of me finding out the truth). So did the whole of the ‘gang.’ No one was there for me, no one was on my side. I was the one being isolated.

When I finally did see the light – after slip ups on both their parts – I spoke to her. I was crying, upset and I actually apologised to her! I wanted my girls back. Do you know what she said? ‘It’s too late for that, it just won’t work anymore, I don’t think we can be friends.’ She was the one in the wrong but somehow she was the one that got to keep all our ‘friends.’ She was definitely the ‘Regina George’ of our group! I was devestated (at first) but then I realised if they could just drop me like that, then they never really were very good ‘friends’ to begin with. 

So to sum up, do I miss my ‘sex and the city’ style girl gang? Sometimes yes…but overall no. I keep my circle a lot smaller these days with true friends who would – and have been – there for me in a crisis! Some girls can be so mean. So if you find yourself in a similar predicament, let those toxic people go…new people will come into your life and it’ll be even better than you could have ever imagined – you go Glen coco!! X 

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Wilde about the girl…

Both of Louise Pentland’s fabulous novels have spoken volumes to me. 

A few years ago I was ‘Robin Wilde’ a single mum juggling parenthood, work, dating and still trying to have a social life. I think that’s why these books, more so than others, are so relatable to me.

When all the odds are stacked against Robin she always has a way of coming out on top remaining loyal, loving and true to herself and those around her throughout. Although people (and situations) may try to dull her sparkle along the way…she continues to shine and I feel that Robin and I could’ve been besties – you know, if she were real haha! 

Having watched Louise for a few years now I can’t help but imagine Robin and Lyla as Louise and Darcy when I read the books, only because the bond they share and the love they have for one another is so evident in their vlogs. 

‘Wilde like me’ and ‘Wilde about the girl’ show that you can get hurt (you’re only human after all), but also that time is a great healer and you can do/get through anything if you put your mind to it and have a good support network around you – where can I get an Auntie Kath from please?! Isn’t she lovely?! 

Both books also touch – delicately – on things that you, your partners, your mums, dads, aunts, uncles, nans, grandads, cousins or friends may have faced. Louise handles these subjects with care, honesty and makes you feel like even if you have gone through or are currently going through a hard time – things WILL get better, so just hang on in there. 

Robin doesn’t need a ‘knight in shining armour’ to come and save her, she’s pretty kick a** at doing her own thing and I think we should all take a leaf out of her book. 

I can’t wait for to see what the next tale will hold for Robin, Lyla, Kath and the gang! x 

A lot has changed…

So I’ve come to the realisation that I haven’t been a great blogger recently (or ever haha!) but I am determined to change that. Since I last checked in – I’ve had another baby.

Rocco is now a bouncing beautiful 3 month old and my oldest child Lulu will be SIX in 14 days. I am so lucky to have one of each, they are wonderful and I feel so blessed to be their mummy. He’s already sleeping through the night but is now getting teeth so all that might change soon *Yawn* He’s also already growing out of 3 – 6 month clothing, but he was 11lbs 7oz born – so what do you expect?!

 

The New year started with a bang…

And no…I don’t mean all the fireworks – my boiler literally exploded with a huge bang just as I was about to head out on New Year’s Eve drenching me…and my whole flat in about 4 inches of water! Needless to say I was not really in the party spirit after that. That’s kind of why I haven’t been on here for a while, that and a few other things I’ll tell you about soon. But the great news is…I’ve met a new guy – he’s lovely 💜 we’ve been together just over 4 months now, the time has flown by! 

Hope you’ve all been keeping well and all the mummies out there have had a wonderful Mother’s Day! I got some beautiful cards and flowers from Lulu and we rounded off the day with big cuddles on the sofa and a ‘dramatic reading’ of Love you forever (if you’re a friends fan you’ll know) it’s such a beautiful children’s book. 

I just wanted to check in and say I haven’t forgotten about you and (in the voice of good old Arnie) ‘I’ll be back!’ 😉 x

Grey is not okay!…

So Halloween came a few days early for me when my hairdresser of many years said those words women around the globe dread to hear…’Oh look, it’s your first grey hair.’ Panic stirred inside me & I started having a ‘late twenties’ crisis (I hate to think what my mid life one will be like haha!) What have I achieved? Where is my life going? Will I ever meet the one? Will I have more babies? 

It seems like everything has flown by so quickly, I can remember being at reception in school…and now I have a daughter that goes to the very same school – with some of the teachers that taught me (wonder how old that makes them feel!) I remember my 18th, my 21st and all the years inbetween like it was yesterday but it wasn’t and that scares me. I wish I could go back and savour every moment good or bad. It’s like I was born…I fast forwarded 27 years…and now I’m a grey haired (one hair…but still)  *almost 30 year old 😱 when did life pass me by. Btw I know how totally dramatic I sound but one grey hair at a time my youth is slipping further and further away – so my crisis drove me to create a tinder account (I will update you in my next post about this lol)  book in for more regular hair maintenance appointments and I brought my first ever hat 😂 I may never take it off, how did you cope when you found your first one and how old were you? I know some people don’t mind…but for me – grey is not okay haha x

Life works in mysterious ways…

So picture this – it was three weeks ago in Menorca, I had shockingly poor wifi connection – I know…scandalous right? I mean it’s 2015 after all 😉 I had to stay stuck to one particular point otherwise I’d be disconnected from the world but I had a 4 year old who didn’t care about the latest Facebook gossip that mummy wanted to catch up on – when I received a whatsapp message from my best friend. 

We managed to get a few lines of conversation in when she said ‘I’ve got something to tell you.’ I knew what she was going to say before she even said it…she was pregnant! I was ecstatic for her and so excited at the prospect of having a new born to hold in the not to distant future (if you haven’t worked it out by now…I’m baby mad lol). Now this next part…I thought were only made up stories in the back of ‘take a break’ magazine and never actually happened to real life people but apparently they do…I asked how far along are you expecting like 8 weeks or something like that. No…no she was 6 and a half months gone already! She’d only found out two days before she told me 😮 ‘oh and by the way…it’s a girl!’ Now you don’t know my friend but she is the most organised person I know. If she’s going on holiday in three months…her bag would already be packed (yep…she is a bit crazy but she’s friends with me, what do you expect?) So this bombshell totally knocked her for six! By the time I got back from holiday a week later and met up for a catch up she’d already planned the nursery, got the pram, brought some clothes and named the baby! The most I’d accomplished that week was a tan lol! 

So as I sit here staring out the window at the torrential downpour wondering why I’ve never been married, why I still haven’t met Mr Right or why I don’t have a ‘conventional’ idealistic life…it just goes to show that you can make as many plans as you want but in the end whatever will be, will be and your whole world can change in the blink of an eye. If things aren’t how you want them to be at the moment, that’s not to say they won’t be so don’t worry…life works in mysterious ways. x

Welcome to my world…

Firstly, thank you for even looking at my blog! It’s very early days so there’s not much on here yet…but there will be…stick with me 😉 I’ll be blogging about everything from parenting, dating disasters, things my daughter and I enjoy doing, creative and crafty tips and ideas, they’ll probably be a lot of photographs (just to let you know lol) fashion, my uncontrollable broodiness, hopes, dreams and everything else in between! Have a great day and come back again soon x