Mean girls…

As it’s National ‘Mean girls’ day today…I thought this would be a perfect time to share my experience.

In my teens and *just* into my twenties I had been part of a big group of girl friends. We went on holidays together, laughed together and cried together. I loved having lots of friends, there was always someone there to talk to or give advice, always someone to meet up with if you were bored and I thought we’d always be friends. How wrong was I? 

Looking back on it now, it wasn’t as great as it seemed at the time. There was always bitchiness and jealousy among some of the group and girls would take sides with one and isolate the other etc. I always tried to stay neutral in those situations, I like everyone and anyone. I treat everyone with the same respect (sometimes more) than they give me, I was a lot softer by nature then, but now, if you cross me – You’ll know about it. 

That’s exactly what one of my *best* friends did. I was on holiday with another friend of mine and this so called best friend of mine slept with my *then* boyfriend! 

A friend out of our group told me what she’d done when we got back. I confronted her and she swore blindly that she hadn’t. I confronted him and he said the same. Naively, I believed them – either I was too young and dumb to see through them or they both deserve an Oscar. If she had come clean to me at the time and admitted it – it would’ve been him that I showed the door too, but she didn’t, she stayed quiet. She let me move in with this guy when she knew what they had done. 

He became more and more controlling and she became more and more distant (probably out of fear of me finding out the truth). So did the whole of the ‘gang.’ No one was there for me, no one was on my side. I was the one being isolated.

When I finally did see the light – after slip ups on both their parts – I spoke to her. I was crying, upset and I actually apologised to her! I wanted my girls back. Do you know what she said? ‘It’s too late for that, it just won’t work anymore, I don’t think we can be friends.’ She was the one in the wrong but somehow she was the one that got to keep all our ‘friends.’ She was definitely the ‘Regina George’ of our group! I was devestated (at first) but then I realised if they could just drop me like that, then they never really were very good ‘friends’ to begin with. 

So to sum up, do I miss my ‘sex and the city’ style girl gang? Sometimes yes…but overall no. I keep my circle a lot smaller these days with true friends who would – and have been – there for me in a crisis! Some girls can be so mean. So if you find yourself in a similar predicament, let those toxic people go…new people will come into your life and it’ll be even better than you could have ever imagined – you go Glen coco!! X 

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The school struggle…

How are all the parents out there coping with the struggle of our little ones going to full time school? The first two weeks for me were absolutely awful…she would cry before we got there…cry when I left her…and have the biggest smile on her face when she came out – but still repeat the whole crying routine every morning! We’d just managed to get to no tears – then she was off for a week with a really bad ear infection in both ears…so when it was time for school it was like starting reception all over again including the waterworks. 

Since then I have to admit she has been fine up until the last two days, Wednesday the teacher called me and said Lulu had been knocked over by an older child…then yesterday I got called in to pick her up with a black eye, a bloody nose and a bruised ego when a football had been accidentally kicked into her face by…you guessed it an older child! She’s nervous about going to school anyway and I’m worried she’ll start to get a complex the poor thing so the teachers got an ear bashing about not letting the year 2’s and the reception babies play together as the year 2’s are too rough! 

If I could wrap her in bubble wrap I would but I know we need to let them grow up! I hope she has a lovely, problem free day today so hopefully her school can take my number off of their speed dial lol! Hope all your babies are settling in fabulously at their new schools and you parents aren’t feeling the really bad empty nest syndrome like me…god knows what I’ll be like when the day comes that she actually does leave home 😉 x